Fifteen minutes ago, while I was ruminating about the upcoming release of my book, I got slammed by my first experience of “writer’s remorse.” Raise the Child You’ve Got—Not the One You Want is my first book, so I felt blindsided by the realization that I had put all (well, not all) my dirty laundry out there IN WRITING for posterity.
The voices in my head were insistent. “Aargh! What have I done? Aargh! Why did I share such personal details of my life? Aargh! What was I thinking?” and finally, “How can I get out of publishing this book? Aargh!” (The voices in my head like to say “Aargh!”)
So I took a Facebook break, and that’s when I came across Antoinette Tuff. This remarkable lady PREVENTED A MASSACRE at an Atlanta-area elementary school. She did so by connecting with a troubled young man with an an AK-47 and 500 rounds of ammunition, who was convinced that he was going to die and no one cared.
Antoinette Huff cared. She connected with him by sharing her story. She shared her struggles and she told him she cared. And he laid down his arsenal and said he was sorry.
This is why I included my struggles in my book. So that others can say, “I’m kind of like her, and she found a way. Maybe there is hope.”
When we reveal ourselves, we forge a real connection with those who are watching, listening or reading. Feeling that connection, we know we’re not alone. We understand each other’s experience, misery, and desperation.
This is why I have made myself vulnerable. Thank you for reminding me, Antoinette Tuff.
Here’s a wonderful interview with this inspiring human being.