Everyone wants to raise a child who is a success.
How we define that success, though, makes all the difference in the kind of relationship that we will create with our child. And too often, we are so focused on success that we lose sight of the relationship itself.
In Raise the Child You”ve Got—Not the One You Want, I look what happens when the parents define success for their children. There”s a lot of this going on in our culture, and it”s understandable! After all, we live in a complex, fast-changing world, and we want our children to become prepared to live in, and take on that world. It”s easy to fall into this kind of thinking:
My job as オンライン カジノ a parent is to raise a child who is a success, and I have the wisdom, experience and judgment to know what it means to be a success. I help shape and mold my child to follow this path, and when he complies with my expectations, he earns my acceptance and approval. When he doesn’t comply, we battle, and I look for new ways to keep him on the path to success. Repeat as necessary.
Do you see where I”m going with this? When parents decide what success is, our job then becomes to mold, shape, cajole and push our children to satisfy us and our idea of what”s best for them. This tension is at the root of many of the recurring conflicts we experience with our children, and each battle chips away at your connection with your child.
Leading with acceptance offers an alternative. Stay tuned to learn a better way to raise a child who is a success!
Thoughts? Please share!