Raising a Child Who Is a Success…Part Two

We all want to raise successful children. In my last post, I described the problems that can occur when parents are the ones who define success.  They then try to mold, shape, push and cajole their children to satisfy this expectation. It doesn’t work!

Leading with acceptance is a better way. You want to raise successful children, but you recognize that the definition of “success” must incorporate each individual child’s nature.

This excerpt from Raise the Child You’ve Got–Not the One You Want  (available October 2013, pre-order here) explains the new model for success:

My job as a parent is to help my child become a success by becoming the best version of who he is.

1. My first task is to understand and accept who he is.

2. While accepting and honoring who he is, I lead our family so he learns the values and the proper behavior in our family, our community, and the world.

3. I do not impose my idea of success on him; instead, by accepting who he is, I help him get to know himself and become comfortable in his own skin. In this way, I help ensure his lifelong well-being as he becomes the best version of who he is.

Do you agree that the new model of success is a better way to ensure your child’s lifelong well-being?

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  • Jackie Weintraub says:

    What if I don’t agree with what his or her definition of sucess?

    • Nancy Rose says:

      Great question! “Success” means helping him get to know his strengths and weaknesses and helping him become the best version of who he is.

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