Kids Archives - Page 2 of 3 - Nancy Rose
Today I want to share three nuggets of parenting wisdom from the blogoshpere. Why reinvent the wheel? Sometimes you’ve just got to pass along the wisdom…
First up is the latest on the Challenge Success Blog. Check out “We’re” Not Going to College…written by Julie Lythcott-Haims, who was Stanford’s freshman dean for ten years. She has a forthcoming book about “helicopter parenting,” and she writes in the blog:
We seem so afraid on our kids’ behalf – of strangers, of missed opportunities, of failing to keep up with the Joneses – and our fears impel us to always be there, present, hovering, poised to prevent, protect, intervene, advocate, and defend. Read More
Fifteen minutes ago, while I was ruminating about the upcoming release of my book, I got slammed by my first experience of “writer’s remorse.” Raise the Child You’ve Got—Not the One You Want is my first book, so I felt blindsided by the realization that I had put all (well, not all) my dirty laundry out there IN WRITING for posterity.
The voices in my head were insistent. “Aargh! What have I done? Aargh! Why did I share such personal details of my life? Aargh! What was I thinking?” and finally, “How can I get out of publishing this book? Aargh!” (The voices in my head like to say “Aargh!”) Read More
Sorry, I couldn’t find a good image for three blind men, so three blind mice are standing in for them! There’s a fable about the three blind men that I’ve included in Raise the Child You’ve Got—Not the One You Want. It involves villagers, blind men, and an elephant…pretty dang compelling, right?
I use the fable to point out that we don’t always have as full a picture of our children as we think we do. To lead with acceptance, we start with the Child We’ve Got, and then widen our perspective to understand “the rest of the story.” From the book: Read More
Parents often ask me about whether other parenting resources are in synch with Leading with Acceptance. Today I want to share with you three excellent resources for your parenting questions. All of them have philosophies that work well with Leading with Acceptance. Read More
I was back in my hometown of Highland Park, Illinois (a suburb of Chicago) last week. It was my 40th high school reunion, and as I laughed and reminisced with my grade school buddies, I thought about how, in my forties, I “discovered” the sheer joy of being onstage performing. Whether it was by speaking, singing, or dancing, I came alive! I was mystified at why it had taken me so many years to connect with this vibrant, open part of myself. As I pondered the question, a memory surfaced from first grade. Read More
We all want to raise successful children. In my last post, I described the problems that can occur when parents are the ones who define success. They then try to mold, shape, push and cajole their children to satisfy this expectation. It doesn’t work!
Leading with acceptance is a better way. You want to raise successful children, but you recognize that the definition of “success” must incorporate each individual child’s nature.
Everyone wants to raise a child who is a success.
How we define that success, though, makes all the difference in the kind of relationship that we will create with our child. And too often, we are so focused on success that we lose sight of the relationship itself. Read More
Of course we love our children. We often say things like “I’m doing this because I love you” or “If I didn’t love you, I wouldn’t care what you do.” But love means different things to different people. Poets, philosophers, and mystics have been pondering the meaning of love for thousands of years, and still, who can define it for anyone else?
Are you familiar with Anita Moorjani? (www.anitamoorjani.com) She is the author of Dying to Be Me, a memoir of her remarkable near-death experience and resulting healing from massive cancer all over her body. Her experiences have left her with a profound knowing of what is important in this life and a mission to remind people to remember their magnificence. Read More